I'm not sure if anyone who is married experienced the after the wedding blues. We spend so much time planning, making sure every detail is taken care of. And after wards, in one day, literally, it's over. And you ask yourself, now what? What will I do with all this free time? Some will welcome the break. Others, like me, find themselves confused, missing something.
That's sort of how I'm feeling right now. After months of planning, intense planning that included lots of drama, it's over. I no longer have an excuse for piles of laundry, no dinner, no homeschooling, lots of recorded TV shows, skipping gym. Not like they were reason for not doing any of those things but I obviously used them. I stopped thinking about myself, and at some times kinda forgot about my family (sorry sweetie). And I did that because it made me feel good. I was doing this for someone else... for 200 people. To make them happy.
And now, here I am. With my Monday. The day you say you'll start a diet, go to the gym and pledge to be a healthier, better you. What do I choose to do with my time? Whatever it is, it has to be meaningful. It has to make me feel good, just like volunteering feels. Because this is my life, this is my Monday.
3 comments:
You go girl! Interesting perspective on the after-wedding blues!
Saw this via Best Posts of the Week. Mine was featured too!
John
http://johnandstevearehavingababy.blogspot.com
Sometimes it takes a lot of thinking to find out what you REALLY want to do. We have to consider all the other people in our lives to find the balance. Maybe that's what's going on with you now that the big event is over.
I usually end up doing for the rest of the family because that's what needs to be done and that's what makes me happy, but then, occasionally, I do something just for me because I have to take care of me to take care of them.
Thanks for your comments John and bettyl.
Just like the post-partum blues I do believe the after-wedding blues exist. Maybe not with that name, but still.
I think I'll start by spending some more one on one time with mini-me and then work my way from there.
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